Most of us have habits that we just don’t understand. We ask ourselves over and over why is this happening? Often it feels like we are going in circles and can’t seem to figure out why. When looking at any habit we need to understand that there are two key drivers. We are either driven by pain or by pleasure. However pain is always a stronger driver and we will do much more to avoid it.
When working on any of our habits we need to figure out what believes or thoughts are driving us towards that behaviour in order to avoid for example the pain. We need to understand that our thoughts are merely a reflection of our perception of things. Everything is neither good or bad but we attach a meaning to things. Everything just exists and we can always change the underlying thoughts and believes.
Thoughts are often like tables. You need to take off their feet to make them unstable and weaker so that they loose their power. You can do this by finding evidence of a believe or thought not being true. Once a thought looses its power it will be much easier to replace the thought with something that will support you better in the long run.