Every day when we wake up we have a choice. We have a choice on how we want to feel. We have a choice on whether we want to be happy. Most people let life happen to them and never realise that they always have a choice. Do you choose happiness?
It is never too late to choose again. What does to be truly happy mean to you and what do you need to do in order to be happy? Do you need to forgive the past? Gabrielle Bernstein says that happiness is directly linked to the willingness and ability to surrender. We can always choose to go with love and peace instead. We can always choose to reconnect to our soul.
In my opinion happiness is linked on how fast you can come back to love. Often when we find ourselves in a difficult situation with someone and we get annoyed, we do not actually realise that the other person is also within us. If the attribute that is in the other person would not be in ourselves too then we would not get annoyed in the first place.
When I first got to know my mother in law, I used to get so annoyed because I got the feeling she always needed to be in control. After a while when I thought about the whole situation I realised that at the time I am a control freak as well which triggered the discomfort within me. From that moment on I choose to see the relationship with love since I knew that a part of my mother in law is also within me.
When you feel helpless and do not know how you could possibly choose happiness choose to help another person. Get out of your own way and be of service which will reconnect you to the universe and shift your vibration.
Be who you want to be rather than dance around that person. Ask yourself daily how can I be who I want to be?
How to get more abundance in life is one of these questions that keeps popping up. Our potential is unlimited so what stops us from consciously creating the life of our dreams? The Abundance Factor Movie explores this topic further.
For some this is correlated to the fear of failure. The interesting fact about failure is that the world forgets over time and moves on. The only person that keeps remembering is us. We truly are our worst critics.
So where does this fear actually come from? Fear is a protective mechanism by our mind to keep us alive. Once we realise this we also realise that this feeling of fear is something that we will never go away. Whenever we venture into unknown territory fear will pop up.
Have you ever noticed that when you first have an idea you are all excited and pumped to get going? Then over time doubtful thoughts and fear pops up and sometimes within a few days you have talked yourself out of the idea. This is the protective mechanism of fear.
When we set goals in life we are often not after the actual achievement of that goal but rather the feeling that the achievement will bring us. We may want to feel freedom, more fulfillment or perhaps worthy. We need to realise that we can always choose to feel what that goal will bring now. This process allows us to create what we want rather than to focus on what we don’t want.
In order to create more abundance in our life we need to re-program our conscious as well as our subconscious mind and elevate our vibration. Feelings of the highest vibration are peace, joy and gratitude. Here is a 4 step process that will radically shift your vibration if applied consistently
- Every day make a list of 10 things that you are grateful for.
- Every day send love to 3 people that bother you.
- Every day be quiet for 5 minutes.
- Every day ask for today’s guidance.
We rush around daily trying to get as many tasks completed as possible. We work in our day jobs and perhaps on the side we are building our own business so that one day we do not have to work for someone else. In the middle of all the hustle we strongly believe that we need to make things happen and often we try to force results or we even start stressing about them. On top of that the coming generations want it all now. Gone are the days where we just accepted that even Rome was not built in one day. Gone are the days where we accepted that perhaps there are lessons that we need to master on the way as part of our journey on this planet.
On the weekend we had mouse stuck in our down pipe that distributes the water from our air conditioner. You are probably thinking what this has to do with business or with our fast paced society. The mouse was stuck with its hips and kept trying to force its way out of the pipe. It got so stressed and burned out from its continuous efforts. Interesting enough after the mouse actually relaxed and let go we were able to pull it out of the pipe gently as it was stretching.
In life we need to realise that when we take time to take a deep breathe we are able to see situations from a different angle especially when we may feel stuck. Perhaps we are even able to see what is happening at the time as an outsider which allows us to make better decisions and often we are able to become more productive. Many find it hard to give up control and allow life to flow. What if a more mindful approach could drastically transform our experiences?
How often do you wish you could break out from your cage? Perhaps you are in a job that you don’t enjoy. Perhaps you are financially limited. Or maybe you wish you could finally shape up. Often people feel that something is missing in their life.
Yet most of us don’t realise that we have built the walls of our cages ourselves. We choose our life everyday and we choose our thoughts as well as our actions that shape the direction we are heading in.
At times you may wish for freedom in your life. Perhaps true freedom is knowing your soul so deeply that you cannot stand to lead a life that does not honour it. Are you brave enough to get to know your soul and find the true essence of who you really are?
Were you the driver of your car today? Were you present when shifting gears or breaking at the lights? Did you consciously choose which route you were going to take and did you choose to check the mirror to look out for any drivers?
Most of us are on auto pilot when it comes to our lives. We always have a choice whether we want to go straight, turn left or perhaps turn right. We are the authors of our lives and we are the ones that can be in the driver seat if we choose to. The question is are you willing to get into the driver seat and choose your destination or are you going to give your keys away?
Most of us have habits that we just don’t understand. We ask ourselves over and over why is this happening? Often it feels like we are going in circles and can’t seem to figure out why. When looking at any habit we need to understand that there are two key drivers. We are either driven by pain or by pleasure. However pain is always a stronger driver and we will do much more to avoid it.
When working on any of our habits we need to figure out what believes or thoughts are driving us towards that behaviour in order to avoid for example the pain. We need to understand that our thoughts are merely a reflection of our perception of things. Everything is neither good or bad but we attach a meaning to things. Everything just exists and we can always change the underlying thoughts and believes.
Thoughts are often like tables. You need to take off their feet to make them unstable and weaker so that they loose their power. You can do this by finding evidence of a believe or thought not being true. Once a thought looses its power it will be much easier to replace the thought with something that will support you better in the long run.
All too often we put on masks to hide the real us. Whether it is because we want to be liked by others or perhaps we want to fulfill other expectations of us. We are scared what others may think, we are scared to show our real passions. We might love to meditate and tune into ourselves to reveal our inner guidance and wisdom that we have always access too. Perhaps we are unsure of wearing our favourite clothes outside of our home because they are not what is currently in fashion. Or perhaps we have this hope and passion for a life where we work from home and get to spend more time with our loved ones.
From a vibrational perspective there is nothing more freeing than to be our true self. To share our light and what lights us up enables us to spread more love in the world. I am dedicating this new year 2017 to lifting my vibration and aligning with who I really am. Do more of what feels good and follow the bliss. In the past I have often been very driven and taken the upstream river approach whereas this year I am going to allow more. I am taking the approach that things do not have to be hard and always done forceful. I am going to flow. Are you brave enough to take your mask off and discover your true self?